From experience and that of a few well placed friends, here is an attempt to stereo-type "well-wishers" the sarcasm be obvious these are the people one encounters in life who go out of the way to wish you into the deepest well they can conjure up. So many well wishers, so many wells one can never figure out which well you are being wished into. Please feel free to add to this list n the benefit of humankind.
The random acquaintance who targets you: This "Well-wisher" you will never figure out, takes sides where there are none. Will make it a point to be a jerk in public not to target you but to have his "bro's" think he is a strong supporter of theirs.
Precaution: Completely ignorable, do not give much thought they are more talk less bite.
The gives free advise: A common "Well-wisher" every one has one. Will give you constant advise which when not taken will go around looking hurt and crib about you and the decisions you make, comes disguised as a friend, colleague or even distant family.
Precaution: Do not pretend to like the advise, this only serves as encouragement to this breed.
The goody 2 shoes: This is one "well-wisher" you will always have a niggling doubt about. You may have X-pals in common with this one. Moment you discuss something he will go tell your not so good friends. You never really find out till you get tiny pieces of news from people you never talked to.
Precaution: You may never really nail this one down but the good thing is that they are not so significant
The "saint and best pal": This "well-wisher" is a piece of art, God forbid if you meet one. Will be your best pal, will constantly remind you how much he / she has helped you, and how you are blessed to have them as a friend, this is a clingy and secretly jealous individual. Uses every trick in the book to try lower your confidence and has developed rumor mongering to a science, in most cases their viciousness increases in direct proportion to your success. Its common for such "well-wishers" to go whining to their other friends with hurtful looks trying to garner sympathy.
Precaution: Avoid clingy people, if you see this type, run like hell. They will only poison your life with negativity, like a bad stink they refuse to vanish completely even when gone.
The waggly tail: Mostly encountered at workplace, is of average intelligence and high ambitions, prefers to inhabit large organizations, though is not unknown in smaller ones. This "well-wisher" will try his best to make you believe that he worships you, will be supportive of all your decisions especially the wrong ones, every time you turn around he will be there right beside you. Beware if you had not turned around he would have snapped at that ankle. True colors of this ankle biter will be revealed when you make a career move.
Precaution: Watch your back! don't trust any one who says they trust you completely. Carry that pinch of salt
The crab: Yes perhaps the most common of the "well-wishers", hates every one! You are not special. Blames the world for his troubles, constantly lives in the past, is competitive but not hard working, will carry mediocrity like a flag and quite proudly so. Will pull any one down just so there is equality in his world.
Precaution: There is rarely an opportunity to avoid this one completely.
to be continued .....
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